Exoticanya

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It was a wet day Saturday morning and my partner and I had meticulously planned a visit to the nearest private shop to purchase a dildo. Not a dream of mine but my partner who longs to use the aforesaid sex toy on me as part of some fantasy foreplay. I don’t mind as we experiement alot in the bedroom and it didn’t seem much to ask to send a little happiness his way. I don’t own a dildo and my partner has no experience of buying one so we had put all other commitments to one side, had a slow relaxing breakfast and made our way to the sex shop with much trepidation.

Now I have brought many sex toys in the past but never a dildo and I didn’t imagine it to be such a difficult task but from the moment we walked over the relevant section of the shop a tension hit the air. The range veered from small and compact to bloody huge and eye watering my conumdrum was were to pitch in. I didn’t want to offend my partner by choosing a member that was obviously much bigger than his own but I prefer a larger size cock and the larger proportions were certainly appealing. An ensuing dance of the dildos occured whereby I would hover over  a certain size bracket before tip toeing to a smaller size according to my partners reaction. I ended up drawing the lovely lady assistant into the dance by asking for her opinion regarding a good choice and momentarily managed to discuss the topics of straight and smooth or curved to reach the g-spot, a knobbly version for extra stimulation or hands free versus handled for precision probing. Try as i might to deflect the choice to another over riding factor the decision always came around to the same thing, what size dildo to choose.

Eventually I chose a dildos marginally smaller than my mans which seemed to please and once we had got home and used it my partner said ‘why don’t we go for something a little bigger’.

Already I am thinking about Erotica and will be attending on the 19th – 21st November in the Grand Hall with all the delightful adult stalls displaying their tempting wares. I hear that the visitor level last year was on par with the year prior which goes to show that we love our sex toys and bedroom accessories better than ever before. I noticed last year there were also adult trade stalls present but i understand that this has been dropped. I will be visiting my old favourites and attempting to hunt out the latest vibrators and dildos of delight so keep your eyes peeled and you might see me there.

I have been reading a book about how to ramp up the erotic in your sex life, well at the moment I am my sex life in the week topped with some amazing sexual adventures at the weekend. Not a girl to wait until the weekend I enjoy the company of my many sex toys during the working week and masturbate most evenings with vibrators and clitoral vibrators. Of late my masturbation routine has felt just that, a ROUTINE. The usual spot, alternating the same toys, orgasm as quick as it comes which has resulted in my self pleasure becoming more a MC Donalds than a home cooked meal. Hence my wandering into a book store and picking up a copy of Dr Pam Spurr’s Fabulous Foreplay. The Foreplay in question is with myself but I figured hey, if I pick up any sex tips for my weekend jaunts thats even better.

The section on Auto-sensual massage caught my eye, its basically touching yourself in a way that increases the response to touch and enhance any pleasure you subsequently receive.

Right I thought with massage oil in hand, let me retire to my bedroom and prepare myself for tonight’s guest Lelo’s Nea.  The techniques were described as basic which wetted my appetite and would ultimately stimulate my sense of touch and pleasure receiving receptors. To begin I had to rub the oil between my palms whilst lying down on a towel. Dr Pam asked that I note the feeling of my palms and the pleasure that could be derived from the smooth feeling. Next the instruction was to stroke and pinch the body at various points to decipher where would release those sense receptors most. After 30 minutes of massage I ended up with great big red marks and a slight irritation. Oh well Nea was at hand so I grabbed her and we woke up those touch receptors together!

We all know that pelvic floor exercises are good for your sex life. They improve your enjoyment of sex and sex toys as well as sustaining muscle control essential in your later years. Did you know that when it comes down to sex itself there are other exercises which will improve your prowess, here’s a handful to cram into your already overloaded days….

Pelvic Tilt – This exercise helps with the thrusts needed when enjoying a damn good shag. The lower back and buttocks are the driving force behind your thrusting action so keeping these strong will improve your sex technique ans stamina. Lie on your back with your knees bent in a comfortable position and gently tilt your pelvis up towards the ceiling whilst keeping your back flat on the ground, repeat 3 times for 10 tilts.

The cat – A yoga pose to keep your lower back strong and flexible. Get on all fours and make sure your back is flat. Move into the cat position by arching your back up and then allowing it back down to the flat position.

Hip Rotations- Come on play like Tom Jones and bring some flexibility into your hips. During sex your hips provide must of the movement between your genitals and gently rotating your hips daily will keep you fitter and calmer. Try the hula on Wii Fit or buy yourself a hula hoop its a sex gods accessory.

The squeeze – Vaginal control improves sex for you and your partner and if kegel exercisers seem too complicated just grab a dildo or vibrator and feel the vaginal squeeze. Keep the sex toys turned off or distraction will occur and simply squeeze the vaginal muscles around the shaft.Vibrators and dildos are fantastic choices but any phallic shaped object will do the trick. Stronger vaginal muscles will then mean that you can clamp around your partners cock during sex and send him into heaven.

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The Skin Two Rubber Ball tickets are now available to purchase at £50 each. This year the organisers are saying there are limited tickets in London on the 12th December. The Rubber Ball will be held at an exclusive location this year in one of the largest private residences in central London.Built in 1775 by Robert Adam for the famous explorer Lord Henry Wyndham the grand house has been home to a number of interesting characters. The theme for the evenings entertainment is masked ball and it will feature live entertainment, DJ’s, art, dungeon playrooms and a dedicated couples area.

I was speaking to a colleague the other day who admitted to not having an orgasm. Can you imagine never having experienced a climax! How common is this and how many women have never indulged in the act of masturbation to discover their personal pleasure spots? Some of the problem comes from shame and believe me self pleasure is nothing to be ashamed about, also knowledge or lack of information leaves some women in a barren wasteland of dry vagina and no release.

I told my friend that the best way to finding her orgasm was to use her fingers and some sex lubricant if necessary, spending quality time exploring her clitoris and labia the focal point of any girls pleasure. Explore your body with vibrators or dildos, any sex toy that helps you connect with the erotic and sensual. Begin by caressing yourself as a lover would, focusing attention on your vagina and clitoris drawing in the sexual energy and building up arousal. Use the wetness from your vagina to lubricate the clitoris and begin massage on the lips with a clitoral vibrator or your moist finger. Take your time masturbating and find your own rhythm, once you have found a speed you enjoy begin repetitive stroking over the clitoral area. If you find manual stimulation too bland add some buzz, vibrators are a great way to build up climax and sex toys can be a woman’s best friend!

Men are turned on by visuals (women too but that’s our secret!). If you want to drive your man to extreme sexual heights then tantalise and tease with visual stimulus. Make an effort to dress for sex every once in a while and use visual props for seductive scenes of wicked abandonment. Ramp up the raunchy with lap dancing or put on your favourite porn for a visual feast while sucking and licking your man to heaven. Here are our tips for getting firmly in your mans sight in the bedroom…….

• Dress to impress – Sexy maid, seductive secretary, naughty nurse or kinky cop a sexy outfit can really have his eyes popping and enable you both to act out sexual fantasies for amazing sex. Dress in a corset or basque for a sexy floor show and don’t forget the ultimate in sex dressing, stockings and suspenders in fuck me heels!
• Touch yourself all over – Create a visual feast by touching your thighs, nipples, hair, stomach, clitoris. Use sex lubricant or massage oil for long sensual strokes of your body or sex toys for a sex scene to remember.
• Erotic Pose – position your beautiful body to flatter your curves most.
• Pleasure yourself – Masturbation can be the best foreplay, take your favourite vibrator or clitoral vibrator and

About 60% of baby boys born in the USA are now circumcised, compared to approximately 15% world wide. Whether it is intact or not every boy is born with a foreskin and it actually serves a number of purposes. During sex the foreskin keeps the head of the penis moist, protected and soft, retains pheromones (sex scent) and can give pleasure to both partners during sex.  They come in many different lengths but most will disappear when the penis is fully erect. If your lovers penis has a foreskin remember these few tips:    Be Tender – The foreskin will  gently glide up and down the shaft of the penis when stroked and tugged but it is very delicate and can easily tear. Don’t grip too tightly or stretch it too far or pull on it too fast. Go Easy - Start slowly as the foreskin is jam packed with sensitive nerve endings. The head of the penis is also virgin skin that doesn’t de-sensitise against clothes or pants, its always best to start slowly and apply more pressure if needed. Wash Underneath the Foreskin Pull back the skin and have a good wash underneath as bacteria can collect. Wipe Up – Remember to have a wipe after a pee it will keep your foreskin sparkly clean.